Asalaamu alaikum rhamatullahi wa baraktuh,
Bismillah ir rahman ir raheem,
Alhamdulillah I sit here writing this post with sadness mashaAllah, as I just found out the youngest daughter of a friend of mine just passed away subhanAllah. It was unexpected as she was never sick alhamdulillah. Her father woke up in the morning as usual and found her. The doctor said that she had passed two hours prior to her father finding her mashaAllah.
You do not know what it is like to have your daughter or your son pass away until it happens close to home or you are preparing for it subhanAllah. I ask Allah for his mercy that you never feel this pain, ameen. We ourselves were told after my daughter was born that she wasnt going to make it not one day so I started preparing myself mashaAllah. In the following days, we stayed by her in the NICU, we prayed and made dua, and we sat and cried, thinking to ourselves that Allah subhana wa tala had blessed us with her, and has given her to us as a test, and now she is going back to Him, انّا للہ و انّا الیه راجعون (Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un). Alhamdulillah, seven months later she came out of hospital and although she has many health issues, she is otherwise a beautiful, energetic one year old mashaAllah, and Allah has surely blessed us.
Allah tests His believers with afflictions in this life. Afflictions include death of loved ones, illness, ill-treatment of others, poverty, children’s problems, and misunderstandings with spouses. Death of loved ones is the most difficult of these afflictions, notably more difficult for women, who naturally get hurt more deeply, than men. The following ahadeeth, InshAllah, are a source of inspiration to those who lose their loved ones.
Some women said to the Prophet (saw): “O Messenger of Allah! We cannot attend the lessons you hold due to the large number of men attending, so, set aside a day for us to attend. The Prophet replied in the affirmative, and on the day that he was preaching them, he said, “No woman offers three of her children except that this would be a barrier between her and the hellfire (i.e. Three of her children die while she is still alive). A woman asked, “O Messenger of Allah! What if she loses just two? Will she be saved as well?’ He replied, ‘Yes, she will.’ (Sahih Bukhari).
The Messenger of Allah (saw) said, “When a person’s son passes away, Allah asks the angels, saying, ‘Have you taken the life of my worshipper’s son?’ The angels reply, ‘Yes.’ Then He says, ‘Have you taken the apple of his eyes?'” See how merciful Allah is even when He afflicts His servants! ‘They respond, ‘O our Lord! We have. Then, He says, ‘What was the reaction of My servant?’ They say, ‘O our Lord! He has praised You and said, ‘To Allah we belong and to Him shall be our return.'” Then Allah says to them, ‘Build for him a house in Jannah and call it the house of al-Hamd (the praise).” (Sahih Bukhari).
On the Day of Judgment, the children who died shall refuse to enter jannah without their parents. They shall say, ‘O our Lord! We shall not enter without our parents.’ Allah shall then reply, ‘Take your parents by the hand and enter jannah together.’
This is a reason for us to reconsider our view of affliction. The beauty of patience lies in the place to which it directly leads, Jannah!
Sister, I try to understand what you must be going through and my thoughts and duaa are with you and your family during this time, and I pray Allah subhana wa tala give your daughter the most beautiful place in jannah, and I pray she is for you a gate to jannah in the akhirah, ameen.
May Allah azzawajal reunite us with our loved ones in Jannatul Firdous with Prophet (saw), Ameen.