About

Salaam aalikum ramhatullah wa barakatu…. I am a muslimah and wife with a wonderful husband two sons and daughter masha’allah. I am going to be using this wordpress site to share resources insha’allah in regards to homeschooling that i do with my eight and 1.5 year old sons and four year old daughter, thoughts on islamic issues that I may have read, womens’ issues and the issue of blindness and other health problems among women in Yemen and the non-profit organization for them that I hope to start bithinAllah.

25 responses to “About

  1. Muneera

    Asalaamou alaykoum wa rahmat Allah!

    Thanks for your comment on my blog. Mashallah I’m beginning homeschooling too for my 4 year old daughter and I really appreciate the resources you have on here! Where in Manitoba are you from? I used to live in Grunthal and Steinbach. Where in Ontario are you living now? I’m living in London.
    Take care and hope to hear from you soon!

    Wasalaam
    Muneera

    • Salaam alaikum sister
      I havent heard from you in a few days. InshaAllah you and your family are well… how is homeschooling going? Maybe I should check your blog inshaAllah… I need some new ideas… muhammad and I made a hajj diorama, you should check it out on the site, i posted pics… 😉

      fi amanAllah
      UmmMuhammad

  2. Asalaamu Alaikum

    I’m another homeschooling mom..I’m handmade beginnings mother! Please check out my blog at

    http:www.oldmuslimwomanintheshoe.blogspot.com

    I’m in southwestern ontario too.

    • Walaikum salaam,
      Sister, are you in the Windsor/Tecumseh area? I havent been able to meet many homeschooling mothers here alhamdulillah. InshaAllah get back to me ok? Your other blog is handmade beginings? The one I have a link to on the side of my site alhamdulillah? Let me know!

  3. Asalaaamu alaikum

    I’m about one hour from you. My daughter’s blog is handmade beginnings. I have 10 kids and she is my second child. Muneera above me in the comments is my friend and we are going to be starting a network for muslim homeschoolers in southwestern ontario. She is an hour from me too. No muslim in my area is homeschooling.

    • Salaam alaikum uhkti

      Okay I think I know where you live now inshaAllah! 🙂 MashaAllah ten children… may Allah subhana wa t’ala make each and everyone a gate to Jennah for you ameen! I would like to join the network too inshaAllah… Is there anything I can do to help?

  4. Wa Alaikum salaam

    You can contact Muneera because its her husband who is setting it up but we will be maintaining it.

  5. Asalaamu Alaikum

    Do you have an email?

  6. Asalaamu alaikum

    How sad we never started anything and my kids are back to school.

    Do you know this woman? She is from Yemen is in the top 100 most influential women in Canada.
    http://albertaventure.com/2011/10/next-up-a-perfect-circle/

  7. Wa alaikum Salaam

    You’re welcome. Jazakullah khair for the dua.

  8. bint ahmed

    Slmalek sisteR…I dnt see any new posts or any replies to my posts ???is everything okay???I hope so inshAllah…
    Bint ahmed
    South africa

    • Asalaamu alaikum habibti
      Alhamdulillah everything is fine. It is just exam time here and I am not doing as well as Id hoped… I was admitted myself to hospital for a couple days last week, alhamdulilah Im better now… my daughter had a week of appointments in London as well…. InshaAllah I will be posting soon, take care habibti, I love you for the sake of Allah ❤

  9. Jessie

    Hi There,
    My name is Jessie and I live in New Zealand. I came across your website while working on a project about the hunger crisis in Yemen and I’ve really found your website quite interesting. I was wondering, are you from Yemen?If so, It would be great to get some actual information about the hunger crisis in Yemen from a person from Yemen herself.
    Thank You and Take Care,
    Jessie 🙂

    • Hi there Jessie,
      I am not myself from Yemen, though my husband is, and I have spent 6 months there when my son was younger and hope to go back in the near future. I know I may not be much help, but you should know, the problem is not lack of food, rather it is the growing cost of food that is being imported due to Yemenies not being able to grow enough food for themselves. They cannot afford the food, especially those who have large families and live in the villages, outside the city. They suffer malnutrition and they then must save up to afford the drive to the hospital in the city for treatment. Furthermore, they get sent back home and the circle continues. I am interested in your project though and have written a paper myself this past year entitled: Tackling Controversial Issues in the Gulf – The Lack of Adequate Access to Healthcare for Yemeni Women (still looking to have it published though). It is my hope in the future that we can implement much needed programs and free clinics in Yemen to tackle these on-going issues. Hope to hear from you soon.

  10. Salaam alaykom wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

    I was browsing the internet for leads to orphanages in Yemen and came across your blog. I am keen on adopting orphans from Yemen biithnillah. I need information but I can’t seem to get any online. I was wondering if you might know how it works since you work with some orphanages there? Could you please email me inshaAllah so that we can talk privately and explain my situation better. My email id would appear before you approve the comment so I won’t write it down here. I’m sure you understand.

    I hope to hear from you soon ukhti.

    • ss0117

      ^Were you able to find any information.
      I am also looking for information about adopting an orphan from Yemen but cannot find any contact or much info on the internet.
      If anyone has any information or contact in an orphanage, please let me know too. I will greatly appreciate it.
      Thanks

      • Asalaam alaikum ramahtullah wa barakatu.

        Adoption was a pre-Islamic Arab Custom

        Adoption of an orphan/helpless child was a very popular and moral practice amongst pre-Islamic Arabs. By adopting an orphan, they used to consider the adopted child as their own and pass on the adopter’s genealogy and name, inheritance, and the prohibition of marriage on grounds of consanguinity i.e. a close relation or connection.
        After Islam

        Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) undid the above mentioned Arab practice of adopting children. Islam gives the adopted son no actual rights. Yes, one can and is encouraged to care for an orphan, but it is only as an act of kindness and there can never be any legal relationship. At the time of this ruling, a verse was revealed:
        “God did not make your adopted son as your own sons. To declare them so is your empty claim. God’s word is righteous and constitutes true guidance.”Quran 33:4

        Prophet Muhammad adopted Zaid as his son. In the Pre-lslamic period of ignorance the custom was that, if one adopted a son, the people would call him by the name of the adopted-father whom he would inherit as well, till Allah revealed: “Call them (adopted sons) By (the names of) their fathers.” (33.5)[4]

        Reading this and as my understanding of Islamic law, Muslim countries do not allow adoption as we know it in Europe and the west. Fostering and orphan sponsorship is highly encouraged and rewarded both in this life and the hereafter but by law you cannot adopt a Muslim child and consider the adopted child as your own and pass on your genealogy and name, inheritance, and the prohibition of marriage on grounds of consanguinity i.e. a close relation or connection.

        ————full explanation below———

        According to the Sharee’ah (Islamic law), there is no legal adoption. It is prohibited for a person to legally adopt a son or a daughter of whom he is not the biological father. If a person adopts a son or daughter, the Sharee’ah will not confer on the adopted person the status or rights of a biological son or daughter. According to the Quran, one cannot become a person’s real son merely by virtue of a declaration; Allaah Says (what means): “…And He [i.e., Allaah] has not made your claimed [i.e., adopted] sons your [true] sons. That is [merely] your saying by your mouths, but Allaah says the truth, and He guides to the [right] way. Call them [i.e., the adopted children] by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allaah. But if you do not know their fathers, they are your brothers in religion…” [Quran 33: 4-5]

        This shows that the declaration of adoption does not change realities, alter facts, or make a stranger a relative, or an adopted child a son or daughter. A mere verbal expression or figure of speech cannot make the blood of a man run through the veins of the adopted child, produce natural feelings of affection found in normal parent-child relationships, or transfer the genetic characteristics, or physical, mental, or psychological traits.

        Justice is Respect for Others

        The central notion of justice in the Sharee’ah is based on mutual respect of one human being for another. The just society in Islam means the society that secures and maintains respect for people and their rights through various social arrangements that are in the common interest and welfare of the general public. Islam views adoption as a falsification of the natural order of society and reality. The prohibition of legal adoption in Islam was ordained to protect the rights of the adopted, adopter, biological parents, other individuals affected by the adoption, and society as a whole.

        Lineage and Legitimacy

        The child is an extension of his father and the bearer of his characteristics. He takes his name and increases his progeny. Likewise, the child in Islam also has the equally inalienable right to legitimacy. The principle of legitimacy holds that every child shall have a father and one father only. This is why Allaah has ordained marriage and has forbidden adultery, so that paternity may be established without doubt or ambiguity and that the child may be referred to his father, and the father to his sons and daughters. Hence, adoption cannot be used in Islam to hide the illegitimacy or the paternity of the child.

        Inheritance

        By adopting someone’s child as one’s own, the rightful and deserving heirs to the property of a man are deprived of their shares. Hence, Islam has made it Haraam (forbidden) for a father to deprive his natural children of inheritance. Allaah has established the distribution of inheritance in order to give each eligible person his or her share. In matters of inheritance, the Quran does not recognise any claim except those based on relationship through blood and marriage. The Quran stipulates (what means): “And those who believed after [the initial emigration] and emigrated and fought with you – they are of you. But those of [blood] relationship are more entitled [to inheritance] in the decree of Allaah. Indeed, Allaah is knowing of all things.” [Quran 8:75]

        Marital Relations

        Taking a stranger into the family as one of its members and allowing him to be in privacy with women who are non-mahram (i.e., non marriageable relatives) to him is a deception, for the adopter’s wife is not the adopted son’s real mother, nor is his daughter the boy’s sister, nor is his sister the boy’s aunt, since all of them are non-mahram to him and vice-versa for an adopted daughter. The Quran has, thus, declared that only the wives of one’s real sons, and not the wives of any sons under one’s care, are permanently forbidden in marriage. This is according to the verse (which means): “…The wives of your sons who are from your [own] loins…” [Quran 4:23]

        Accordingly, it is permissible for a man to marry the divorced wife of any son under his care, since, in actuality, she has been the wife of a ‘stranger’ who was not related by blood. Also, when the adopted child’s lineal identity or paternity is changed, it is quite possible that the adopted child may, unknowingly, enter into incestuous relationships by marrying close relatives of his natural parents; also, his marital chances may, in general, become subject to confusion.

        Solidarity

        If the adopted child were to receive a claim on the inheritance of the adopter, the real relatives may become rightfully angry feeling that the adopted child has received something that is not rightfully his, depriving them of their full inheritance. This could lead to quarrels, fights and the breaking of relations among relatives. Therefore, adoption is not conducive to family solidarity and overall harmony and peace, which are necessary for social stability.

        Allowable Forms of ‘Adoption’ in Islam

        Orphans:

        This is a completely different form of adoption, which is not prohibited by Islam – that is, when a man brings home an orphan and wants to raise, educate, and treat him as his own child. In this case, he protects, feeds, clothes, teaches, and loves the child as his own without attributing the child to himself, nor does he give him or her the rights which the Sharee’ah (Islamic Law) reserves for his natural children. This is a meritorious and noteworthy act in Islam, and the man who does it will be rewarded by being admitted to Paradise. Prophet Muhammad once said: “I and the one who raises an orphan, will be like these two in Paradise (and he pointed his middle and index fingers)”

        There are also numerous Quranic verses that support the act of taking care of orphans and enough cannot be said about how pleased Allaah is with this noble and charitable act, see: [Quran: 2:220; 4:2; 4:6; 4:10; 4:127; 17:34]

        Foundlings:

        A foundling or abandoned child is also regarded as an orphan, and one may apply the term ‘wayfarer’ to him as well. In this case too, as in that of orphans, the child’s lineal identity must be unchanged and parenthood to the natural parents should not be denied. When the parents of such children are unknown, the children must be made brethren in faith; See [Quran: 33:4-5], as cited at the beginning of this article.

        If a man is childless and wishes to benefit such a child (orphan or foundling) from his wealth, he may give him whatever he wants during his lifetime.

        Modern Forms of Adoption: Artificial Insemination

        Islam safeguards lineage by prohibiting adultery and legal adoption. In the same way it forbids artificial insemination if the donor of the semen is other than the husband. Thus, Islam keeps the family line clearly and unambiguously defined without any foreign element entering into it. That is why Muslim scholars unanimously consider artificial insemination a despicable crime and a major great sin, to be classified in the same category as adultery.

        It is a more serious crime and detestable offence than adoption, for the child born of such insemination incorporates in itself the result of adoption – the introduction of an alien element into the lineage in conjunction with the offence of adultery, which is abhorrent both to the divinely revealed laws and to upright human nature. By this action the human being is degraded to the level of an animal, which has no consciousness of the noble bonds of morality and lineage which exist among the members of a human society.

  11. ss0117

    Thank you for the detailed reply and I understand and have read about all of the points you have mentioned.
    Muslim countries do not allow adoption in the western sense. I had to use the word adoption as I am not sure how else to ask about it or what word to use.
    In Muslim countries where adoption is allowed, the adoption is done so that the parents are given guardianship of the child and no name or parentage is changed.
    Since there have been many such adoptions, US department of homeland security takes the guardianship or kefala letter issued by the judge and accepts it as grounds for giving visa.

    We would go about the right way of taking guardianship of an orphan child but I need to get in touch with someone in the country who knows what documents are needed and/or other requirements.
    I would appreciate if you have any contact in an orphanage in Yemen and could help me in getting in touch with them.
    Thanks

    • Asalaam alaikum ramahtullah wa barakatu Have you tried calling the embassy to explain the situation? Maybe they can help…

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  12. ss0117

    Wa alaikum As salam w rahmatullah wa barakatuhu
    I did call the embassy and they have no idea. They directed me to google and told me to search for Dar Al-Aytam which did not lead me anywhere. I will keep on searching. If you come across any orphanage contact information, I will appreciate if you can pass it on to me as well.
    Thanks again

  13. ss0117

    Yes, InshaAllah if and when we adopt, I plan on nursing the child to establish mehram relationship.

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