Category Archives: ajer
Okay so as you may have noticed, there have not been too many posts involving my sons hs. The reason for this is all of the time we have been spending at the hospital with my dd who has beckwith-weidemann syndrome. Macroglossia is part of this syndrome and so her tongue blocks her airway and she has a tracheostomy. Long story short, we just arrived home from seeing her surgeon and ENT and her surgery for a tongue reduction is booked for January inshaAllah. At that time, a different ENT will come in and place tubes in her ears as she currently has full conductive hearing loss alhamdulillah. Please make duaa for her. InshaAllah my mother will be coming to help us. Ds doesnt mind the hospital so much as they have playrooms and he always has soo much to keep him busy from crafts to nintendo and on and on alhamdulillah. He is as patient as a 4 year old boy could be mashaAllah, Allah has blessed us.
In other news, she has learned the sign for “more” and “no”….
Alhamdulillah my dear husband has come down with a high fever (among other effects) only a few days before he is to depart and come home. Allah give him shaf’aa, ameen.
Do you ever wonder why Allah subhana wa t’ala allows his believers to come down with sickness?
Hadith – Bukhari 7:564
“I visited Allah’s Apostle while he was suffering from a high fever. I touched him with my hand and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! You have a high fever.” Allah’s Apostle said, “Yes, I have as much fever as two men of you have.” I said, “Is it because you will get a double reward?” Allah’s Apostle said, “Yes, no Muslim is afflicted with harm because of sickness or some other inconvenience, but that Allah will remove his sins for him as a tree sheds its leaves.”
What does this all mean? It means that although you feel as though you are suffering, when you find yourself sick, a sin is erased from your record. So next time, do not place any negative connotation when explaining your sickness (i.e “I feel horrible.”), rather say “Alhamdulillah, I do not feel well.” Count your blessings while you are sick (mar’eetha) using the opportunity to seek forgiveness of sins inshaAllah.
10 things that wipe out 10 other things
2. Pride wipes out knowledge
3. Repentance wipes out sin
4. Lying wipes out livlihood
5. Justice wipes out oppression
6. Grief wipes out life span
7. Charity wipes out calamity
8. Anger wipes out intellect
9. Haughtiness wipes out generosity
10. Backbiting wipes out good deeds
Asalaamu alaikum sisters,
I just wanted to give a shout out to another sister and dear friend of mine, Mariam Umm Muhammad. She is currently homeschooling her daughter mashaAllah while keeping an eye on her two younger sons! She is a wonderful sister and mother so I would like to be the first to welcome her to our online homeschooling community and offer any help I can give… I know it is hard sometimes habibti, but jazakAllah khair for all you do, may Allah subhana wa t’ala reward you in the akhirah and may He make it easier for you and your family every day inshaAllah.
Bismillah ar-raman ar raheem…
The Messenger of Allah (sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam / may Allah bless him and grant him peace) said: “When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (continuous charity); knowledge which is beneficial; or a virtuous descendant who prays for him (the deceased).” [Sahih Muslim]
“His deeds come to an end” means that he/she is not able to perform any deeds any more and therefore does not receive reward for actions anymore. But there are three categories of actions for which he/she can receive reward even after death.
First, Sadaqah Jariyah: This is any good deed done from which people continue to benefit despite the demise of the person who originated it. For example, the establishment of a madrassa or masjid (mosque) from which people are rightly guided will be sadaqah jariya (continuous charity) for the person who established it. Having a well dug or a shade or fruit tree planted will also accrue good deeds for a person, as long as the well or tree benefits people.
Second, “knowledge which is beneficial” means knowledge imparted verbally or by any other means through which people become better Muslims. As long as people benefit from this knowledge, the teacher will receive reward for it.
A third source of reward is having virtuous descendants. Training of children on the right lines and then making dua for them to be among the righteous is essential, so that after a person’s death they continue to pray for him or her. The prayer of righteous children in favour of parents is very useful.
Needless to say, all such deeds have to be done with sincerity (ikhlas) in seeking the pleasure of Allah (subhana wa ta’aala). Only when they are done to earn His pleasure will they be rewarded by Him.
Asalaamu alaikum sisters
This is a repost of points from a sister’s post which you can find here inshaAllah… I felt the same way after my son was one year old and could not sit still during taraweeh or lectures subhanAllah. I read this and I think astughfiruallah….
“When I had my first child, I was really frustrated that my husband would enjoy taraweeh in the masjid whilst I either stayed at home or went to the masjid only to be surrounded by loads of screaming babies and kids! In a way I silently resented the fact that he was having this amazing Ramadan and I wasn’t. When I had my second child, it was almost impossible for me to even think about attending taraweeh! Until, a sister gave a beautiful talk that I attended. In it she advised us that Ramadan should not be about ‘who can get to the masjid and pray’, but rather we should make Ramadan as pleasant and as easy as possible for our husbands. Something like this, if the intention is correct, could mean a lot of reward. I don’t know about you, but I am unable to make it to taraweeh in the masjid with 3 young children and I used to feel that the loss of that type of ibaadah was so great. And whilst it is, we need to choose other ways to gain reward in this blessed month.”
Seriously, making Ramadan as easy as possible for our husbands will not only make them happy but is a simple way of gaining that ajr that we so need. So, yes, why not place a glass of water to their mouth as the Prophet (saw) used to do to Aisha (RA). Why not, iron their clothes ready for taraweeh and eid? Why not run them a nice bath to make ghusl in on yawmul jumuah?
By Allah, before I became Muslim I would never have seen myself doing these things, but you know what it is all about the intention behind deeds. In a book called ‘Winning the hearts of your husband’, the author narrates a story of one of the pious predecessors in which she was advising her daughter before she got married. She advises her ‘Be like a slave to him and he will become your slave’. Couldn’t agree more. And look at it this way too. Not only will you be gaining the pleasure of Allah and an easy way to gain extra good deeds which will also make your husband happy but it will unite the hearts between your husband and you.
from this sister’s wisdom masha’Allah, we learn:
– that we should be patient with our situation and only khair (what is good) comes from Allah subhana wa t’ala.
– if we do things with the right intention then we too, insha’Allah can gain ajer equal to what our husbands do to please Allah, and Allah subhana wa t’ala knows best.
– this month can not only bring us closer to Allah, but also to our husbands. The intention during the month of ramadhan is to please Allah and come close to Him, though through those intentions, we inadvertently make our relationship with our husband closer and more loving, Allahu alem.
Asalaamu alaikum ramahtullah wa barakatu,
So, alhamdulillah, I think my son is almost finished with memorizing soorah al-kawthar. InshaAllah that will soon be crossed off our list and we can move on insha’Allah.
As I sit here, I am watching the yemen ftr channel. There are these yemeni girls putting on a play, displaying their traditional dances… how I miss that mashaAllah! Not so much the dancing but the sisters there and my husbands’ family and the air… yes, even the air is different subhanAllah. The people are different there mashaAllah… they have such a different life, so simple… anyway, I miss it. Not so much the politics though. Those Im sure everyone would be better off without. The sisters from Yemen know what I mean. There is soo much that needs to be done there inshaAllah, so many opportunities for sadaqah and ajer. InshaAllah one day…